Hi Guys! Luba here, a Ukrainian matchmaker and one of the co-founders of Heart Rocket, an international matchmaking agency. With over 15 years of experience in the dating industry and with countless successful marriages, I’ve learned a lot about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to dating.

Today, I want to share three low-value behaviours men often display on first dates. These are things I’ve witnessed firsthand, both from our own experiences and through feedback from men and women. These behaviors can be major turn-offs, so it’s important to be aware of them if you want to make a great first impression.

1. Being Frugal: The Pitfalls of Pinching Pennies

One common mistake some men make is being overly frugal on a first date. Now, I’m not saying you need to spend a fortune, but it’s important not to make your budget constraints too obvious. For instance, when you’re eyeing the menu, calculating the cheapest meal options, it can come across as a major turn-off.

In Eastern European cultures, where traditional gender roles are still common, this behavior is particularly detrimental. Ukrainian women, for example, are often savvy with money due to economic challenges in their country, but they still want to feel valued. Regardless of your date’s background, being too frugal can make a woman feel like you’re not willing to invest in the experience or that you’re not ready to step up as a provider long-term.

Everyone has a budget, and that’s fine. But, instead of making it obvious, choose a place where you can comfortably afford a nice experience without worrying. You don’t need to go over the top, but you should show that you’re willing to invest in making the date memorable.

2. Talking About Money: The Taboo Topic on a First Date

Another low-value behavior to avoid is talking about money. It’s a mistake some men, especially those with a financial background or investments, make on dates. But discussing money too early on can be a huge turn-off, regardless of cultural background.

In European cultures like Ukraine, talking about money on a first date is considered impolite. It can make your date uncomfortable or come off as showing off. A first date is about building a connection, not comparing stock portfolios. So, avoid comments on how cheap things are or how much money you’ve made from investments. Focus instead on meaningful conversation and getting to know each other.

3. Being Picky About Food Choices: Not the Time to Be a Food Critic

Another low-value behavior is being too picky about food on a first date. If you’re constantly complaining about the food, sending dishes back, or being overly critical, it can come across as rude and high-maintenance.

Many cultures, including Ukrainian, see food as a significant part of the dating experience. It’s about enjoying each other’s company, trying new things, and sharing a meal. Being picky can give the impression that you’re hard to please, which is not the message you want to send.

Instead, be open-minded about your food choices. If something’s not to your taste, politely decline or eat something else without making a fuss. Focus on the conversation and your connection with your date rather than nitpicking about food.

Conclusion: The Importance of High-Value Behavior on First Dates

In my experience, high-value behavior is crucial on a first date. It’s your opportunity to make a great impression, build a connection, and lay the foundation for a future relationship. Avoiding low-value behaviors like being overly frugal, discussing money, and being picky about food can go a long way toward creating a positive experience for both you and your date.

Remember, it’s not about showing off or flaunting wealth. It’s about making your date feel valued, listening to her, and enjoying the moment. Be respectful, mindful of cultural norms, and focus on creating a meaningful connection.

At Heart Rocket, we help men become the best versions of themselves and form meaningful relationships. If you’re interested in learning more about our matchmaking services, feel free to reach out. Good luck on your next date!

Thanks for reading!